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Robi Schlaff on Domestic Violence & How to Help

The guest is Robi Schlaff, former director of the Westchester County Office for Women and executive director of the Westchester Family Justice Center, who explains building coordinated domestic violence and child abuse initiatives, including a Domestic Violence High Risk Team and multidisciplinary investigations, and the challenges of implementing policy across agencies and police. She critiques family court delays and discontinuous hearings, addresses misconceptions about domestic violence risk and offender presentation, discusses burnout boundaries, shares a survivor’s courageous public testimony, and advises friends and neighbors not to urge leaving but to connect victims with experts or call police if in immediate danger.
 
Topics
02:32 The Docket Dear Annie
03:39 Supporting Friends After Divorce
08:40 What Not To Say
11:40 Overrated Staying For Kids
14:02 Prenup Infidelity Clauses
15:50 Reputation In Divorce
16:50 Mocktails And Divorce
18:17 Inventing A Show Mocktail
19:39 Margarita Banter
20:05 Museum Gift Shop Debate
24:27 Meet Robi Schlaff 
25:06 Making Change in Government
26:09 What Makes Policy Work
28:37 Family Court Fixes
32:49 Misconceptions in DV Cases
36:06 Public Risks and Outreach
38:39 Burnout and Boundaries
43:41 Leadership Secret Sauce
45:20 Survivor Courage Story
47:11 What Neighbors Should Do
48:27 Episode Wrap and Thanks

Filmmaker Elizabeth Lo on ‘Mistress Dispeller’ & Infidelity

Evan interviews award-winning director Elizabeth Lo about her documentary Mistress Dispeller, following Teacher Wang’s work with a wife, husband, and mistress in China, and explores empathy, cultural “saving face,” legal/ethical challenges, filmmaking style, and the documentary marketplace.
 
Topics
00:46 Season Intro and Guest Tease
01:17 Producer Banter and Setup
02:40 On the Docket: Shaq Divorce
04:14 Kids and Divorce Reflections
07:46 Parenting After Separation
10:22 Overrated/Underrated Begins
10:50 Legal Takes Business and CPAs
13:56 Co Parenting Communication Rules
15:54 Fun Picks Cornhole and Photobooths
20:38 Introducing Elizabeth Lo
21:29 Mistress Dispeller Origin Story
22:31 Teacher Wang Philosophy on Pain
23:59 Cheating Husbands Beyond Villains
26:01 Wives Culture and Saving Face
27:36 Directing Without Taking Sides
30:00 Editing With Restraint
30:20 Could It Work In The West
31:56 Legal And Ethical Minefields
34:01 Reconsent And Participant Protection
35:27 Mistress Beyond Villainy
36:43 What Mistress Dispelling Reveals
38:14 Participant Reactions And Trust
40:23 Filmmaking Style And Craft
42:15 Motivation And Doc Market Shift
44:19 Monogamy Love And Reflection
47:20 Future Love Stories
49:04 They Said It Quotes Segment
56:28 Documentary As Poetry
01:01:00 Wrap Up And Farewell
 

'Women Money Power’ Author Josie Cox

Evan delves into the complex world of divorce and relationships, spotlighting how financial dynamics impact these processes. The episode features an insightful discussion with journalist and author Josie Cox, who talks about her article on the rise in divorce rates when women out-earn men and her new book, 'Women Money Power: The Rise and Fall of Economic Equality.' The conversation covers the psychological and financial aspects of divorce, societal expectations, and the gender pay gap. Additionally, the episode presents the popular segment 'Overrated Underrated' and explores recent headlines in the world of divorce and family law.
 
Topics
00:38 Season Six Kickoff and Reflections
03:54 Explosive Divorce Headlines
10:13 Overrated or Underrated: Divorce Edition
19:41 Interview with Journalist Josie Cox
28:38 Generational Shifts in Financial Dynamics
29:25 The Surprising Conservatism of Younger Generations
32:10 The Evolving Perception of Prenuptial Agreements
35:27 Financial Literacy and Gender Inclusion
39:42 The Gender Pay Gap: A Deep Dive
46:21 Addressing Gender Inequality in Professional Sports
52:00 Closing Thoughts and Future Directions
53:01 Fun Segment: They Said It

Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The Future of Relationships & Love

A rich conversation with Dr. Pepper Schwartz, an acclaimed sociologist, sexologist, and bestselling author. Dr. Schwartz discusses the importance of communication and intimacy in relationships, debunks myths about sex and aging, and provides practical advice for individuals at different stages of life. The episode concludes with a segment called 'They Said It,' where Dr. Schwartz offers her perspectives on notable quotes related to love, sex, and relationships.
 
Topics
02:40 Reflecting on 2025 and Looking Ahead to 2026
04:47 The Power of Pause and Measuring Success
07:18 Reflecting on Past Episodes and Guests
11:21 Discussing Relationships and Marriage
16:06 Dating Post-Divorce and Intimacy
26:12 Financial Planning and Divorce
34:11 End of Year Reflections and Future Plans
38:49 The Physical Benefits of Climax
39:22 Sexuality After Age 50
42:00 Gray Divorce and Sexuality
43:53 Misinterpretations in Human Sexuality
47:56 AI Companions and Relationships
50:25 Reality TV and Marriage
54:12 Politics and Love
57:13 Advice for Different Ages
59:03 Communication in Relationships
01:02:09 Rituals to Keep Chemistry Alive
01:07:56 Famous Quotes on Love and Sex

'Outwitting the Manipulator’ Authors Robin Golinski & Dennis Becker

Evan is joined by communication experts Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski, co-authors of 'Outwitting the Manipulator.' The episode delves into recognizing and responding to manipulation in real-time, particularly within the context of high-conflict divorces and everyday relationships. Topics include common manipulation tactics such as gaslighting and love bombing, managing post-divorce parenting, and the significance of premarital counseling. The podcast also features a discussion on handling manipulation from leadership in the workplace and offers practical advice for those dealing with manipulators. The episode concludes with the fun segment 'They Said It,' where Evan and guests analyze famous quotes related to manipulation.
More on Robin & Dennis at https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/
Find Outwitting the Manipulator: The Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/outwitting-the-manipulator/id1644706232
Topics
02:39 Holiday Struggles During Divorce
05:48 Co-Parenting During the Holidays
11:18 Life After Divorce: Remarriage and Moving On
13:06 Overrated or Underrated: Fun and Legal Topics
24:06 Interview with Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski 
36:51 Understanding Manipulative Personalities
37:34 Can Manipulators Change?
38:15 Manipulation Tactics in the Workplace
39:29 Mastering Skills to Handle Manipulation
43:11 Manipulation in High Conflict Divorces
44:17 Communicating with a Manipulative Ex
47:06 Spotting Manipulation in Legal Cases
59:09 Quotes on Manipulation
01:04:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

‘Strung Out’ Author Erin Khar

Evan dives into the complexities of divorce and addiction with featured guest Erin Khar, author of 'Strung Out'. The episode covers Erin's personal journey through a 15-year heroin addiction, her approach to recovery, and her advice on navigating relationships plagued by substance abuse. The conversation also touches on broader societal issues, such as the stigma around addiction and the flawed family court system. Listeners will find practical advice on handling the holiday season amidst divorce, the nuances of parental alienation claims, and thoughts on cultural phenomena like Taylor Swift. The episode concludes with an engaging segment featuring quotes from notable figures and a lively discussion on the underrated cranberry sauce.
 
Topics
00:15 Divorce and the Holiday Season
05:26 AI Relationships and Legal Challenges
12:04 Overrated or Underrated: Pop Culture Edition
23:14 Interview with Erin Khar: Addiction and Recovery
36:15 Addressing Skeptical Senators on Harm Reduction
36:47 The Economic Argument for Medicated Assisted Treatment
39:05 Personal Reflections on Writing a Memoir
40:40 The Dichotomy of Heroin Use
43:39 The Unwinnable War on Drugs
45:41 Advocating for Harm Reduction and Community Support
50:51 Balancing Advice and Personal Experience
52:51 Lessons from Beverly Hills 90210
54:40 Changing the Language Around Addiction
56:31 Parenting and Personal Accountability
01:14:05 The Importance of Sharing Your Story
01:19:36 Final Thoughts and Reflections

'You, Your Husband & His Mother' Author Dr. Tracey Dalgleish

In Episode 93 of The Schein On Podcast, Evan talks to Dr. Tracey Dalgleish, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss her latest book, 'You, Your Husband and His Mother.' The conversation delves into the intricacies of the relationship triangle between husbands, their wives, and mother-in-laws. Tracey provides actionable advice for couples aiming to strengthen their marriage while managing familial boundaries. The episode also touches on significant issues such as the current state of divorce law, the value of farmers' markets, and the communal joy of fantasy sports leagues. Additionally, listeners get treated to the engaging 'Overrated/Underrated' and 'They Said It' segments, making for a well-rounded and insightful episode.
 
Topics
00:33 Exploring Divorce Dynamics with Dr. Tracey Dalgleish
02:47 The Impact of Equal Custody Laws
08:42 Overrated or Underrated
25:08 Navigating Boundaries with Family
26:26 Practical Tools for Tough Moments
28:25 Personal Struggles and Professional Insights
30:12 The Power of Vulnerability in Therapy
34:01 Shifting Perspectives on Marriage and Divorce
35:27 Balancing Professional and Personal Life
38:53 Advice for Couples in Therapy
42:58 Co-Parenting After Divorce
44:42 Reflecting on the New Book
46:48 Fun Segment: They Said It
52:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

'A Soulful Marriage' Author Rachel Glik

Evan welcomes Dr. Rachel Glik, a relationship specialist and author of 'A Soulful Marriage.' Dr. Glik shares insights on maintaining healthy marriages, the misconceptions about love, and her personal experiences that inspired her book. The episode also includes fun segments like 'Overrated or Underrated' and 'They Said It,' where the hosts debate pumpkin spice lattes, reality dating shows, and the wisdom of quotes from famous personalities.
 
Topics
00:30 Fall Season and Football Talk
01:52 Birthday Wishes and Aging Secrets
02:33 Exciting Episode Preview
03:33 Diving into the Docket: Trophy Husband
04:03 Discussion on Income Disparity in Marriages
10:29 Overrated or Underrated: Rebound Relationships
12:51 Overrated or Underrated: Co-Parenting Apps
15:03 Overrated or Underrated: Board Games
16:33 Overrated or Underrated: Reality TV Dating Shows
20:15 Overrated or Underrated: Pumpkin Spice Everything
23:34 Introduction to Dr. Rachel Glik
24:10 Inspiration Behind 'A Soulful Marriage'
25:42 Challenges in Relationships
28:16 The Importance of Physical Intimacy
29:43 Misconceptions About Love
31:24 Early Marriage Counseling
39:21 The Role of Quantum Physics in Relationships
40:49 The Relevance of Marriage Today
44:15 Impact of 'A Soulful Marriage'
46:58 Fun Segment: They Said It
52:19 Conclusion and Where to Find the Book

Decoding Modern Romance with Bela Gandhi

Evan concludes the summer with a compelling episode featuring Bela Gandhi, founder of the Smart Dating Academy. They explore themes around modern dating, the impact of online dating, and the process of finding love post-divorce. Bela shares her journey from a career in business to becoming a renowned dating coach, offering invaluable insights on dating logistics, recognizing red flags, and debunking common myths. The episode also features discussions on the financial and emotional tolls of divorce and includes engaging segments like 'Overrated or Underrated' and 'They Said It.'
 
Topics
00:31 Reflecting on the End of Summer
01:31 Exploring Modern Romance with Bela Ghandi
02:33 Diving into Divorce Trends
08:02 Weaponized Incompetence in Relationships
11:12 Overrated or Underrated: Divorce and Beyond
21:55 Interview with Bela Ghandi Journey and Insights
30:18 Blending Love and Compatibility
30:48 Generational Perspectives on Love
31:37 Unexpected Career Paths
32:19 The Role of Chemistry in Relationships
32:48 Modern Dating Challenges
34:20 The Paradox of Choice in Online Dating
35:51 Dating During and After Divorce
39:44 Debunking Dating Myths
44:53 Psychological Insights into Dating
53:14 The Impact of Politics on Relationships
54:27 Final Thoughts and Advice

Divorce & Personal Growth with Kristin Kenney

Evan interviews Kristin Kenney, CEO and founder of High Gear Advisors. Kristin shares her expertise in career negotiations, crisis resolution, and relationship management, focusing on helping high achievers who resist traditional coaching. The episode covers navigating the divorce process, with Evan and producer Dave discussing their personal experiences. Kristin offers insights on maintaining healthy relationships, setting boundaries, and the importance of neuroplasticity in personal development. The episode also touches on global divorce rates, the challenges of celebrity marriages, and the value of preparation and organization in the divorce process.
 
Topics
00:39 Guest Introduction: Kristin Kenney
01:47 Summer and Divorce: Personal Experiences
04:15 Celebrity Divorce Insights: David Justice and Halle Berry
08:11 Global Divorce Rates: A Deep Dive
11:15 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics
19:57 In-Depth with Kristin Kenney: Career Negotiations and Crisis Management
27:35 Building a New Roadmap for Success
28:15 The Art of Detachment in Negotiations
33:05 Patterns of Self-Sabotage
40:33 Defining True Success
42:28 Navigating Relationships with Different Worldviews
47:56 Quick Fixes for Relationship Improvement
51:28 They Said It: Insights from Authors
57:47 Conclusion and Contact Information